I doubt I’m the only woman to have ever watched “The Notebook”, “When Harry Met Sally” or any other number of chick flicks and wished. Hoped to be swept away in crazy, insane and breath-taking love. You know the scenes I’m talking about. The moment one realises that perhaps it HAS all been a big misunderstanding – and that you ARE in fact meant to be together, even if you are standing out in the snow, in your underwear a’la Bridget Jones.
Are these fluffy moments confined only to the movies?
Having been a “relationship” girl for the past five or six years, I decided to break free of the ideas that held me and embark on a new, single adventure. I say this like it was a choice of mine; it probably wasnt. But in hindsight, it has, and still is teaching me lots of things.
Question: Is the dating game all it’s cracked up to be?
Well lets see, first dates are – TERRIFYING. At first it seems like a brilliant idea. He’s hot, you get along well and now you’ve agreed to meet up somewhere. For the entire time you’re travelling to meet the person in this pre-decided date location you feel like you need to get sick. The idea of cancelling (no matter how amazing the person is) always surfaces. This first date is awkward – and if you’re like me – you’ll chatter and chatter in order to make sure things dont get MORE awkward. You make it through to the end of the evening and unless you’re tipsy – there’s the “goodbye scenario”. Do you kiss goodbye? Set another date? Text to say thanks? All of these questions float around in your brain. If you’re tipsy, your liable to just go for the kiss, the next date and the text. Good for you!
So then there’s dating more than one person. You’re “playing the field”, “young and keeping your options open” and “having fun with different people”. At first its like “ooh, lookat all my choices”! You feel kind of proud of yourself and genuinely like going out with interesting guys who seem to be interested in you.
To my attatched friends, this idea seemed INGENIOUS. One friend even said “wow Suz, your life rocks right now!” They liked the idea that I was having fun, but not tied down to any one person.
However, is this really as great as it seems? I’m not convinced. Sure, the attention is brilliant – but are you cancelling out your chances of actually feeling somethings strongly for one of these guys?! What if you keep dating different people and never again feel the desire to be swept up in a Casablanca-esque romance?! Can we lose our drive to find the one??
So here I am. Twenty-one. Single and having fun. But where’s my Mr. Darcy? I guess you can’t teach an old dog new tricks afterall.